Child Abuse Prevention Month: Wrap Up

On this last day of April, I end this month with the question, what has anyone done to help the situation of helping survivors of childhood abuse? There are many forms. Some are worse than others. Too many children end up dying, either at the hands of their abusers, or by suicide because the system focuses too much on the perpetrators. Yes, it is true that it is the Criminal Justice System, and when we hear about physical abuse or gross neglect that leads to starvation, we get infuriated, with good cause.

It seems to me, though, that so many people want to be easy on those who sexually target children. Sorry to tell you, but, feeling sorry for the perpetrators and thinking that simple therapy will help, is only allowing the abuse to continue. Yes, I’ve done my homework. Don’t assume that because your knowledge is different than mine, that I haven’t studied the topic. I founded Youth Voice Initiative May 2008. I’d already done a lot of research back then, and haven’t stopped studying this topic. You can also visit the cause on Facebook.

I will tell you that #LikasLaw4Wisconsin is NOT about the high school sweethearts who run off together, when one is of age and the other is not. The Romeo & Juliet situation is not applicable, here. We are talking about fully grown adults who make a move on preschool age children, or the 19 year old who targets your 9 year old with special needs. Pedophiles are sexually attracted to prepubescent children, which is birth to about 11 or 12 year old kids. Hebephiles are full grown adults who prefer children at the cusp of moving into adolescence, the premature form of moving into adult shaped bodies. Just like you can’t force someone to become gay or straight, the same logic applies to pedophiles. Please check out the Lika’s Law Petition, and read the body of the petition as well as the accompanying letter. After reading through, then ask me what you wish.

There is no therapy on the face of the planet. I have spoken to a psychologist who had worked in the system, and he has explained that while the results can be found, it’s never a permanent state of coming out of being a pedophile. Pedophilia is a form of sex offender. There is grooming, not taking responsibility, and minimizing the severity of what actually happened. These are all forms of high level manipulation, and is attributed to very narcissistic people. The manipulator will figure out “the right answer”, and use these very same manipulating principle, to groom those who are not experienced into thinking they might not be dangerous. This same psychologist had said pretty much that these people will do anything to get out, and to minimize their sentence, just to get out to connive a way to go back to sexually preying on children. There is even an article by Psych Central that ends their recent report that there is no real conclusive evidence that this therapy even works. Any sex offender who targets children can SAY they’re not molesting children, if they’ve never been caught. Even this German Study doesn’t say that the therapy works, it says it COULD work. These are two different things, people. Another German Study, that took 7,000 pedophiles even states that pedophilia cannot be cured. So if it can’t be cured, how do we know that these people who are sexually attracted to children will actually keep from taking these children?

When children are traumatized, and granted, yes, there are different types of trauma, but, in this case, we will stick to abused children. The home is a combat zone, and your child was not born with boot camp experience. The repeated trauma of abuse actually affects brain development and how these kids learn. This is serious in child development, and how these kids meet the milestones necessary to compete in the workforce and beyond. Because they cannot “just fit in”, may be labeled as slow learners, it isn’t about being an adult. The brain actually changed so adulting isn’t something that just comes up as natural. If children can’t children, how do we expect to have functional adults? I am so happy for places like SAS of Lutheran Social Services to offer support, counseling, advocacy, and so much more. I volunteer for this crisis line, and the ladies and gent who are the staff and volunteers are an awesome group of people. I am also grateful for the Women’s Resource Center, which takes in those in dangerous & abusive relationships who need a safe place to stay. These are priceless agencies, both of which I am proud to be or have been associated with.

So, because the survivors of childhood sex abuse deserve more, I encourage you to take a stand and sign my petition. Not taking a sand is protecting the sex offenders who target our children, making it a community where children are made into sex toys for them.

Trigger warning and it might make you ~sick~

Let me educate some Online peeps. This is also the reason why we need something along the line if #LikasLaw4Wisconsin. Please read all the way through.

There is the web, you get on google or your search engine of choice and look up your topic. There is a whole other web embedded underneath called the dark web. You have to know how to get into it, no I will not tell you how. What you find there is utter depravity at its worse. Today I will stick with the children.  

You will find forums where the freaks go to chat, buy and sell pics of kids, regular pics like the ones they take off your Facebook. THEN there are nude pics, pics of sexual acts between adults/children. Child/child. Animals/Child. Wanna hurl yet? I'm not done. Websites where you can go, whip out that credit card and really get your freak on. You will watch it unfold in real time with real children. Request the gender, request what you want to see done.

Better take a deep breath here... Rape. Torture. Sodomy. Murder. Children for sale. *FOR SALE* a pedophile's dream, in a smorgasbord. I'm not making this up, google it and if you are offended delete me. I AM a child advocate in several ways not just one. Some people on this social network need to get their heads out of their asses and understand some cold hard facts about what goes on with kids and the net. This IS the evil I confront and I will not stop till I'm dead. I fight for the kids in court and online. THIS is EVIL at its worst!

Then people wonder why I caution about things, and turn their noses up, until it's one of theirs that ends up in a film. Sign this petition today, and pass it around. Speak up, or you're supporting these monsters.

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/367/880/690/likas-law-4-wisconsin-demand-stiffer-sentencing-4-child-sex-offenders/

Important Info About Childhood Sex Abuse:

April 25th is Alice Day, which was originally Pedophile Pride Day, is a day where some pedophiles make it a holiday to celebrate pedophilia.  I'm not sure how many of them actually partake in this celebration, but, there is enough of a group that do.  The fact that these people want to make it a festive event is totally disgusting.

The fact that there is a loud group of pedophiles who want to make pedophilia legal, and make it legitimate as a sexual orientation is disgusting.  To make it legitimate is to quietly condone the act of sexually assaulting our children.  Here are some of the symbols they use.

Don't let anyone fool you into thinking that these are just pretty bling for innocent reasons like they like it...  These are pedophile symbols.  If you see these, report them to authorities.  Here is an intel report from the FBI.  These symbols are kind of like the pedophile handshake, which is widespread, regardless of if they celebrate Alice Day or not.  Most of them practice in their own ways, on their own terms.  There are some toys geared toward various ages of children and youth, where the pedophile symbols are on the toys, so if the kids are out and about, those particular children can be publicly targeted as a sign for the various ages that they are attracted to.

Here are some of their terminology and abbreviations, so you can stay on top of it, in case you hear anything.

Do not think that all pedophiles are these weird strangers who jump out of a bush.  Many are smart, and are highly smart in the manipulation game, and will find a way to get trust, gain access to your children, and groom everyone so you don't see the signs of abuse.   The kids will be told that if they tell, they will kill their family.  Most of these offenders are known to the victim.

How do you protect your children?  Know them, and know what is normal and not normal.  Keep open communication.  A strong bond between parent and child is one of the best ways to keep them safe.  These pedophiles and child molesters are looking for those who are loners, insecure, and maybe don't have a solid home life.  

What is the difference between pedophiles and child molesters?  The answer is this:

Pedophiles are sexually attracted to children, the same way that adults are to each other.  A 16 year old who prefers 6 year olds to peers are considered a pedophile, while with full adults, it's more about the age spread.  Technically, a pedophile is one who prefers children that are under 12, prepubescent.  Those who are interested in tweens (12-15 years old) are called hebephiles, and those interested in YOUNG almost adults are called  ephebophiles (15-19).  But, mind you, we tend to call 50 year olds who are attracted to 15 year olds as a pedophile, because of the age differences.  We are not talking about peers who run away with each other.  These are adults who somehow feel connected with these children, to the point that they can't hold an adult relationship the way normal people do.

Child molesters usually come across as normal people in society.  They are probably married, have their own families, might be active in some kind of faith based or civic organization, yet, they choose to sexually assault children.  Those who are developmentally or physically disabled are often targeted.  The scary statistic is, by the time kids are 18, 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted.  For those who end up in college, the numbers are 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys.  Disabled children are 3 times more likely to be targeted for sexual abuse.

Another scary fact is that most of these people who rape our children do not spend much time in prison, if at all.  So, in honor of our children who are being sexually abused and those who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse, let's get #LikasLaw4Wisconsin trending.

Here is the petition to sign:  Lika's Law 4 Wisconsin 
Or, the link:  http://www.thepetitionsite.com/367/880/690/likas-law-4-wisconsin-demand-stiffer-sentencing-4-child-sex-offenders/
 

April is Child Abuse Prevention Month 2

I cannot say enough, that as adults, we MUST speak up for our children. It’s crazy how many people want to sit back and do nothing. Doing nothing makes you a supporter of those who abuse their children. I’m also wondering why some people have a problem signing this petition, since ignoring the issue will also, not solve anything but to allow child predators to keep raping our children. So, you don’t want to sign because you don’t want to feel like a hypocrite? You running off with your 20 year old boyfriend/girlfriend when you were 17 is not the same thing, as a 30 year old targeting your 5 year old. The main difference is, when you were 17, you chose to run off. A 5 year old does not have this choice. Get it? So, if you’re saying that because you fell into the “Romeo & Juliet” scenario makes it so that you don’t want to sign, you’re stating that you don’t have a problem with your 40 year old uncle (or aunt) can take your 12 year old child into the bedroom for sexual purposes.

I’m also hearing from people that they “don’t agree with the stiffer sentencing” because some other country “does therapy & counseling” to reduce the rate of recidivism. I have never seen that study. At all. But, sorry. You. Can. Not. Cure. Classic. Pedophilia. Pedophiles are not mentally their own age, nor do they think there is anything wrong with full grown adults having sex with young children. They just know that society doesn’t agree with it. But, not all sex offenders who prey on children are pedophiles. Child molesters target children because they rationalize the abuse somehow. And no; it is untrue that most are those who were sexually abused as children. The fact is, only 29% of those who have been sexually abused as children go on to become child molesters or pedophiles. Because many take advantage of opportunities coming to them, it isn’t something that “just happens”.  

Here is another FYI: All sexual violence is GROSSLY under-reported, so, the likelihood of a false report is extremely rare, especially if the victim is a child. With the widespread issue child sex abuse being so prominent, it makes it even MORE important to take a stand. The best way to prevent your children from being sexually assaulted or abused is to know your children and have a strong bond with them, which includes open communication. Child predators will target children with low self esteem, and understands that many are not close to their parents, which makes an easier target a child. Know your child. Understand your child. Have mutual respect between you and your child. When you know your child, the behavior changes are more obvious, and when they divulge, believe them. This will help your child move past the victimization. Never blame your children for the abuse, because frankly, no. They did NOT ask for it. Get to know the facts. Too many of these statistics are very frightening, and with the widespread problem, you probably know at least a few survivors of sex assaults. Just to give you an idea of how wide spread it is, think of 4 women you love, respect, and are close to. 

Now, think of 6 men that you love, respect, and are close to. Depending on their ages, there is one on each list that has been sexually abused, or are at risk of it. There are various forms of child sex abuse, and child pornography is one of them. Do not minimize it by saying that the viewer is not abusing those children, because they are revictimizing those children every time the child porn is viewed. It is this very demand that keeps the makers of these images coming, and with each new wave of people, they will keep needing “new material” which is why human trafficking is such a big buck industry in and of itself.

The sad thing is, I’ve heard through the grapevines through various networks, that parishioners of the faith facility I used to attend, were told not to help me out in my cause, because whomever told them insisted that I am only seeking attention, and because of who told them, they felt that they didn’t have a choice but to follow orders. I wonder if whomever said anything has something to hide. Are they protecting pedophiles? Have they sexually assaulted minors? Why would anyone want to exert that kind of power against protecting children from sex abuse? I don’t know. That just means that I need your support more than ever.

Please, I ask you, to help me get #LikasLaw4Wisconsin trending, anywhere and everywhere online. You don’t need to live in Wisconsin to help make this push. We only need to get as many people in Wisconsin to sign this petition as possible, and let’s make it go viral. Please sign and share widely, this petition to ensure that those who sexually assault children do not get to walk.

Copy this - #LikasLaw4Wisconsin: Please sign & share widely  http://www.thepetitionsite.com/367/880/690/likas-law-4-wisconsin-demand-stiffer-sentencing-4-child-sex-offenders/

Paste it in a post on all of your social media contacts on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, LinkedIn, or where ever you are. Or, please share the blog. Thank you in advance.

Important Info 4 Activated 501c3-Nonprofits!

As the founder for Youth Voice Initiative, a 501c4 nonprofit a social organization to push the social changes necessary to better protect our abused children in this great society, there is a reason why I made it a 501c4, and not a 501c3, which is for charitable or faith based organizations (before anyone says they’re not the same thing, yes, duh, I know... the word “or” is an identifier for a choice, not to say that 2 things are the same). Some faith organizations are very charitable, yet many charitable organizations have little to nothing to do with faith organizations.

Faith based or not, there are a lot of things a 501c3 can do. Rescue abused animals; adopt homeless pets; raise awareness and collect money for homeless veterans; create a safe place for those who are abused; organize to ensure foster children have suitcases or backpacks instead of garbage bags to hold their personal items; start a community center; find a faith based organizations; and the options are almost limitless... One thing that does not cover, is how much lobbying, political activism, etc. involved... A 501c3 is also tax exempt, and also can apply for government grants to help fund charitable activities, such as food for the poor. These organizations can also do as much awareness campaigns as they see fit, also. But I think (don’t quote me) that the amount of government campaigning or lobbying efforts are limited to 10% of the money/efforts, and there are rules as to which areas of that are allowed or not.

See, YVI, as a 501c4, can dedicate as much time to political activities, such as changing laws, etc. as it sees fit. Awareness can be anywhere from 0-99%, but taking political stances on issues like child abuse can take anything from 1-100%. Here is the official website: https://sites.google.com/site/youth... 

So, just as an FYI, I want to be able to give you links, to understand what is or isn’t allowed as a 501c3, because without the awareness and charity organizations to put forth toward this topic of how childhood abuse and trauma lasts a lifetime, YVI’s job would be so much more difficult... Here are the links:

Limits on political campaigning - http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclope...

How much lobbying is allowed - http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclope...

Risks to Nonprofit status - https://www.councilofnonprofits.org/...

IRS Reporting issues - https://www.irs.gov/charities-non-p...

 

There are many more articles online, from reputable areas. So... Any 501c3 out there who deals in part or in full about childhood abuse & trauma, I, as the founder of YVI, am offering to partner up with you, to be able to expand your reach into being able to pursue these endeavors under the Youth Voice Initiative mission, to help make our corner of the planet a safer place for abused children. Carry on!

April Is Child Abuse Awareness Month

I’d actually like it to be more than just awareness, but also ACTION to take a stand against child abuse. The situation is not going to go away, just because you choose to ignore it. Child abuse is not a thing to minimize, just because you are uncomfortable. Being quiet about it is actually helping all of the abusers, not the victims.

The reason it’s important, is because April 25 is Alice Day, a pedophile holiday. Just because a certain pedophile targets boys does not make them gay. With very young children, the gender doesn’t really matter. Classic pedophiles just don’t care, it’s perpetrating the innocence that gets them turned on. What ever you hear about pedophiles not being bad people, think again. Pedophiles sexually abuse children. Good people do not turn children into “play things” or “sex toys”.

Your stance to "not get involved" is perpetrating the abuse.

 

 

 

 

Here is a Youth Voice Initiative (YVI) FYI update:

Johnathan and Shawn are on their way to move to Washington State. While this will be a loss for our organization, I wish them well in their new endeavors for a new start, and new adventures to chase what they seek in life.

 

So, we need a few people to try to be kind of regular at our meetings, especially since we need people now, to study a couple of aspects of an issue that we will be compiling to make an educational packet to pitch to our courts, schools, and other counseling places where they help children’s progress after being repeatedly abused. We need at least 1 person on each topic, so, please come to our next meeting to be brought up to speed.

 

1) The info from Help Guide Organization, which is a self-help guide for those who are survivors of childhood trauma and abuse. This may be helpful for those who support those who have lived through this type of abuse. Our entire legal system needs to keep this in mind, when creating, enforcing, practicing, and interpreting our laws.

 

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/emotional-and-psychological-trauma.htm 

 

2) The Blue Knot Foundation, whose mission is to empower people who suffered from childhood trauma, the research documents 150 years’ worth of studies regarding this topic. There are many psychological and psychiatric issues that may come up, due to enduring child abuse through the young, formative years.

 

http://www.blueknot.org.au/Resources/General-Information/Abuse-related-conditions 

 

Our next meeting is April 22 @ 3 pm, because the 16th is Easter Sunday. Hope to see everyone there.

 

In the meantime, there is this important petition called Lika’s Law 4 Wisconsin. We need as many signatures as possible, and please help take it to viral efforts, and make #LikasLaw4Wisconsin be something that is trending. While Wisconsin signatures are the most important, any support is good support.  

Below, I am posting important links. I encourage all to check them out, especially to get signatures on the petition. Here are the links:

 

#LikasLaw4Wisconsin petition: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/367/...

 

Youth Voice Initiative official website: https://sites.google.com/site/youth...

 

And, here is YVI’s Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/YouthVoice...