Thursday, December 23, 2010

Please help find missing girl.

There is a missing girl from my area, that we need to keep an eye out for. Please pass this around, if anyone is reading.

http://www.journaltimes.com/news/local/article_9d1cf240-0e8c-11e0-bde9-001cc4c03286.html?oCampaign=email

Keeping the Holy Spirit alive.

I remember my first Christmas adventure with Grandma..


I was just a kid. I remember tearing across town on my bike to visit her. On the way,



my big sister dropped the bomb: "There is no Santa Claus," she jeered.

"Even dummies know that!"

My Grandma was not the gushy kind, never had been. I fled to her that day because



I knew she would be straight with me. I knew Grandma always told the truth, and I knew



that the truth always went down a whole lot easier when swallowed with one of her


"world-famous" cinnamon buns. I knew they were world-famous, because Grandma



said so. It had to be true.

Grandma was home, and the buns were still warm. Between bites, I told her everything.



She was ready for me..

"No Santa Claus?" she snorted..."Ridiculous! Don't you believe it! That rumor has



been going around for years, and it makes me mad, plain mad!!

Now, put on your coat, and let's go."



"Go? Go where Grandma"I asked. I hadn't even finished my 2nd world famous cinnamon

cinnamon bun..

"Where" turned out to be Kerby's General Store, the one store in town that had a

little bit of just about everything.

As we walked through its doors, Grandma handed me ten dollars.

That was a bundle in those days.

"Take this money," she said, "and buy something for someone who

needs it I'll wait for you in the car."

Then she turned and walked out of Kerby's.

I was only eight years old. I'd often gone shopping with my mother,

but never had I shopped for anything all by myself.



The store seemed big and crowded, full of people scrambling to finish

their Christmas shopping. For a few moments I just stood there, confused, clutching that ten-dollar bill, wondering what to

buy, and who on earth to buy it for..

I thought of everybody I knew: my family, my friends, my neighbors, the kids at school, the people who went to my church. I was just about thought out, when I suddenly thought of Bobby Decker. He was a kid with bad breath and messy hair, and he sat right behind me in Mrs. Pollock's grade-two class.





Bobby Decker didn't have a coat. I knew that because he never went out at

recess during the cold weather.



His mother always wrote a note telling the teacher that he had a bad cough

but all us kids knew Bobby Decker didn't have a cough, he didn't have a good coat.

I fingered the ten-dollar bill with growing excitement. I would buy Bobby Decker a coat! I settled on a red corduroy one that had a hood to it. It looked real warm, and he would like that.


"Is this a Christmas present for someone?" the lady behind the counter asked kindly, as I laid my ten dollars down.



"Yes ma'am," I replied shyly. "It's for Bobby." The nice lady smiled at me, as I told her about how Bobby really needed a good winter coat. I didn't get any change, but she put the coat in a bag, smiled again, and wished me a Merry Christmas.



That evening, Grandma helped me wrap the coat (a little tag fell out of the coat, and Grandma tucked it in her Bible)in Christmas paper and ribbons and wrote, "To Bobby, From Santa Claus" on it..

Grandma said that Santa always insisted on secrecy. Then she drove me over to Bobby Decker's house, explaining as we went that I was now and forever officially, one of Santa's helpers.



Grandma parked down the street from Bobby's house, and she and I crept noiselessly and hid in the bushes by his front walk. Then Grandma gave me a nudge. "All right, Santa Claus," she whispered, "get going."

I took a deep breath, dashed for his front door, threw the present down on his step, pounded his door and flew back to the safety of the bushes and Grandma.

Together we waited breathlessly in the darkness for the front door to open. Finally it did, and there stood Bobby.



Fifty years haven't dimmed the thrill of those moments spent shivering, beside my Grandma, in Bobby Decker's bushes.

That night, I realized that those awful rumors about Santa Claus were just what Grandma said they were: ridiculous.. Santa was alive and well, and we were on his team.


I still have the Bible, with the coat tag tucked inside: $19..95.

May you always have LOVE to share,

HEALTH to spare and

FRIENDS that care...

and may you always believe in the magic of

SANTA CLAUS !

Give back - what you can, where you can, whenever you can.

Friday, December 10, 2010

Sears - A good message!

Saw this a few years ago (these are getting to be looooong wars!) so checked the facts again - still true.





Sears - Christmas shopping this year.

I know I needed this reminder, since Sears isn't always my first choice. It's amazing when you think of how long the war has lasted and Sears hasn't withdrawn from their commitment. Could we each buy at least one thing at Sears this year?

How does Sears treat its employees who are called up for military duty? By law, they are required to hold their jobs open and available, but nothing more. Usually, people take a big pay cut and lose benefits as a result of being called up for active duty.

Sears is voluntarily paying the difference in salaries and maintaining all benefits, including medical insurance and bonus programs, for all called up reservist employees for up to two years.

I submit that Sears is an exemplary corporate citizen and should be recognized for its contribution. I suggest we all shop at Sears at least once, and be sure to find a manager to tell them why we are there so the company gets the positive reinforcement & feedback it well deserves.

Pass it on.

I decided to check this before I sent it forward. So I sent the following e-mail to the Sears Customer Service Department:

I received this e-mail and I would like to know if it is true. If it is, the internet may have just become one very good source of advertisement for your company. I know I would go out of my way to buy products from Sears instead of another store for a like item, even if it's cheaper at that store.

This is their answer to my e-mail:

Dear Customer:

Thank you for contacting Sears.The information is factual. We appreciate your positive feedback.

Sears regards service to our country as one of greatest sacrifices our young men and women can make. We are happy to do our part to lessen the burden they bear at this time.

Bill Thorn
Sears Customer Care
webcenter@sears.com
1-800-349-4358

Please pass this on to all your friends. Sears needs to be recognized for this outstanding contribution and we need to show them as Americans, we do appreciate what they are doing for our military!!!

It's verified ! By Snopes.com at:


http://www.snopes.com/politics/military/sears.asp

Thursday, December 9, 2010

The Dog House

The Dog House - it's a cute video. Please view it, and stay out of the dog house this season.

Christmas time is coming up, and we all have feelings of warmth, friends, family, a quiet meal or a huge banquet, and even if it's a bit of work, we endure the extra little bit of stress because it's exciting. We enjoy what the season means, and we always are celebrating.

But just remember, too often, during the holiday season, people living in an abusive situation end up with escalated abuse, because the stress comes up that high. When this happens, the victims end up in the hospital, and rather than enjoy a family holiday, they endure a nightmarish ordeal. Abuse doesn't take off for a holiday. Please take a moment to sign the petitions, just to take one little step in helping to end the torture.

The first is to help stop child sex predators on and off line. There is a federal and a state version, please sign both. The next is one to help get equity of services for our abused men, because there is little there to nothing out there. The petition is named after a toddler who died at the hands of his mother. So here we go! Please click the links below, which are highlighted.

Federal April's Law Petition

State April's Law Version

Sean's Voice Petition

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Final Day! Knock, knock! Action Needed!

This is the final day for the Male Abuse Awareness week for this year. Thank you to everyone who has been reading, signing the petition and passing it around. Action is still needed, so please keep signing and passing around this important petition.

I want to thank Grandma Elizabeth for sharing the story about baby Sean, who died at the hands of his mother, simply for being a boy. For more information, I'd like to direct everyone to YVI's website page dedicated to the Sean's Voice cause: http://www.youthvoiceinitiative.org/Sean_s_Voice.html

In this section, you will read about how the mother systematically abused her baby, along with the boy's father, whom would try repeatedly to escape with his children, yet would end up incarcerated because the mother would get hysterical and blame the father for the whole thing. It was the worst case of male abuse by a female, and because the police lacked training to understand the situation, and the myths involved that men can't be abused, she was believed, and who knows what happened when the father wasn't home to protect the child.

If, after reading the story, you're not compelled to sign the petition to ensure that our men get equal safety under the law, please sign the Sean's Voice petition to bring emergency shelter, support and services to our unacknowledged survivors of abuse, our men, who currently have little to nothing for them. Here is the petition: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/a-new-perspective-the-unacknowledged-abuse-survivors/

Please continue to pass the petition around. If you would like to do more, please feel free to email me at lika.yvi@gmail.com - and you don't need to be a public voice, there is plenty to do behind the scenes.

If you haven't already, please check out Michael Skinner Music: http://www.mskinnermusic.com/mskinner.html You will find a lifting experience, along with comradeship while there. I encourage all to go, especially if you're recovering from abuse, male or female.

Another good website is the Children Without a Voice website, which will give you a lot of information about how abuse of all kinds affects children. Please give them a look: http://www.childrenwithoutavoiceusa.org/cms/

These are great organizations, and if you could, please at least give encouraging comments to them. Abuse doesn't take a holiday, and often the stress that comes with the holidays make it worse, so please, keep signing the petition. Here is in honor of baby Sean - the Sean's Voice Petition: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/a-new-perspective-the-unacknowledged-abuse-survivors/

Saturday, December 4, 2010

More Help Available for Guys! You have "The Strength of a Man"!

In honor of Male Abuse Awareness week, which is hosted annually from December 1-8 each year, I'd like to post some other websites that are available for everyone.

First of course is www.help4guys.org sponsored by PLF. There are counseling sessions available, and it is all confidential and anonymous. You may have to register for some, but, it's worth taking steps forward.

I'd like to introduce the Surviving Spirit website: http://survivingspirit.com/

This is a comprehensive website, with many aspects that help people past the abuse issues, and there IS help for those who have other issues also. It is a professional site, with much information. Please check it out, and if you need them, please contact them. It's a great site.

Please also continue to go to YVI's website, www.youthvoiceinitiative.org and see what interests you. Even if you don't want to talk to legislators, you may still want to pass out the petitions, and we still need you to sign and pass around the Sean's Voice Petition, to push for equity in services for our abused men, who currently have little to nothing. Please read precious baby Sean's story there. While you're at it, please sign your name to the petition: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/a-new-perspective-the-unacknowledged-abuse-survivors/

Last but not least, Namid is the founder of the R.A.P.E. Foundation, which stands for Recovery. Advocacy. Prevention. Education. She is a strong and beautiful woman who cares about others. Please check out the foundation's website: http://www.rapehelp.com/index.html

Namid has books available for self help for people in need of moving through rape, incest, sexual assault, and much more. Her bookstore is here: http://www.vanillaheartbooksandauthors.com/Namid.html

Please guys, if you are in need of recovery, and aren't ready to talk to someone, please order her book, The Strength of a Man and go through the workbook too. Men aren't always the social butterflies that women are, where we reach out. This book set can really help you. Here is her myspace profile which have other important websites Namid would like for you to see - http://www.myspace.com/Namid

My best wishes, peace out.

Friday, December 3, 2010

Male Abuse Myths & Facts, Survivors Spirit, & Action Call.

Here are some facts and figures regarding male abuse, and I hope that this will help dissolve some misconceptions.

Please have a look at the Male Survivor Website - http://www.malesurvivor.org/myths.html

I hope this helps with what is the real truth, and to ensure that we don't discriminate against our abused men, who are currently pretty isolated.

Here is some news for Male Survivor from my friend and talented musician Mike Skinner on the topic of Survivorhood -


The Surviving Spirit Newsletter Nov 2010





The Surviving Spirit Newsletter
– Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts -







Out of
suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared
with scars.
- Kahlil Gibran







Hello Folks,
.. .. .. Nov
2010





Greetings and my best to all - it is hard to believe that November is
almost over and soon we will be entering into a New Year. I hope this latest
newsletter finds you to be in a good place, I know that the holidays can be a
difficult time to go through for so many. Hopefully, with this
month’s sharing of resources and information, it may help those of you
who struggle through this season of the year – personally, it has always
been a difficult time for me.





We can also experience great joy at this time of year, and yet,
sometimes the slightest trigger of painful thoughts, feelings or memories from
the past can send many into a downward slide. The good news, there are all
kinds of ways and resources to help us cope and move past these debilitating
feelings and memories. If you are struggling, please reach out; please do not
be alone in your pain. Take the time to treat yourself to something nice -
because you deserve it. You can also visit our website Resources Section for a
variety of resources to help you; these website links can lead you to all kinds
of hope, healing and help - http://survivingspirit.com/..resources.html





Our thanks to Alison Rogers for sharing these insightful resources that
help create awareness and education regarding concerns around the holidays for
those who struggle with PTSD and depression – this information can also
help their family and friends.





PTSD and the Holidays - http://www.sidran.org/pdf/..PTSDandholidays.pdf





State of Grace - An Adult Child Abuse Survivor's Guide to
the Holidays –





http://gracedavis.typepad.com/..i_am_dr_lauras_worst_nigh/..2009/11/a-child-abuse-..survivors-guide-to-the-..holidays.html





Sometimes just the simple act of sharing your story with someone can be
one of the most powerful tools for healing – it is exciting to be able to
share some great resources that can help you in that process. Maybe these
sources of inspiration can lead you to some of your own ideas to help not only
yourself, but to also help others – just as these kind and caring folks
and organizations are doing with their respective works and advocacy.





1] Meghan Caughey has founded a new arts organization called VISIONS:
A.R.T.- Art for Resilience and Transformation - VISIONS will inspire persons
who have lived experience of mental health challenges to create art that
expresses their unique stories, creating opportunities to educate, inform, and
transform public perception of what it means to have mental health
challenges.



You can learn more at - http://www.visions-art.org/





Meghan recently received “The Howie the Harp Award” at the
Alternatives 2010 Annual Conference - “Promoting Wellness Through Social
Justice”. This distinguished award is given each year to someone who best
exemplifies social change in using the creative arts. Meghan is someone who I
not only think of as a ‘Surviving Spirit”, but also a gentle spirit
and she gives so much to so many in her creative advocacy efforts - so a well
deserved award. You can learn more about the Alternatives Conference at:





http://www.power2u.org/..alternatives2010/index.html
and “The Howie the Harp Award”





at: http://www...alteredstatesofthearts.com/..index.htm
- then click on News and Info.





2] Gayle Bluebird who has been ‘in the trenches’ for so
long in helping and inspiring so many was also honored recently with a VOICE
Award. The VOICE awards
are given annually by SAMHSA [Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services
Administration] to honor movies, TV shows, and stars that portray mental
illness in a positive light. They also present six consumer advocate
awards. This year Gayle was one of them [and justly so], along with
a few others you may know; Laverne Miller, Janet Paleo, Moe Armstrong - who
received the Lifetime Achievement Award [way to go Moe!!], Fred Freese,
Clarence Jordan and Lorrin Gehring [for the youth award].





I am one of those who Gayle has helped to inspire in my own creative
advocacy endeavors; she has been a friend, a peer, mentor and so much more.
Please visit the NASMHPD [National Association of State Mental Health Program
Directors] website to read her bio and her acceptance speech along with
pictures of the event – just scroll down to - Recent updates and
Information:





http://www.nasmhpd.org/..consumernetworking.cfm





3] Ed Pazicky, Coordinator and Webmaster for Altered States of the Arts
– “Promoting Recovery Through Art’ is looking for artists to
display their creative efforts at the website - www.alteredstatesofthearts.com
Ed is another one of those caring people who helps so many others, just
visit the website to see this in action. He’s also posted Gayle
Bluebird’s above mentioned award and information – scroll down to
Bluebird’s Words. Please contact Ed at - edpazicky@comcast.net





4] Corinna West is gathering recovery stories and recovery poems to
post on her website for Poetry for Personal Power. Corinna’s words sum it
up best – “I would love to feature works from people across the
country.” Please contact her at:





Corinna West, MS, CPS Creative Director, Human Hand Wordworks



PO Box 172351, Kansas City, KS 66117 816-392-6074



http://corinnawest.com/
corinnawest816@gmail...com





5] Draw That Beast is an online art project. People are welcome to
submit original artwork (drawings, paintings, montages, photos) of how
depression visually looks to them. Anyone is welcome to join in; it is not an
art competition. If you can't draw, then take a photo or compile some pictures
together that have some meaning to you. If words fit best, then that is ok too.
http://drawthatbeast.blogspot...com/





Submit by email: drawthatbeast@gmail.com


Submit by post:

Draw that Beast,
PO Box 7043, Watson ACT, AUSTRALIA 2602





6]
Christopher De Serres has created a powerful medium for the millions of sexual
abuse survivors out there who want to tell their stories - many of whom feel
isolated and unable to express the deepest pain in our lives. The
“My Name Is Project” is there to provide a survivor a way to
express it via video sharing. All of the information and resources to help you
in this worthwhile endeavor are posted at –




Chris and his wife Ophelia are also the founders of (Wo)Men Speak
Out™ - a non-profit organization dedicated to eradicating violence
against both genders. They seek to educate both men and women, cultivating
healthy relationships and gender equity. Learn more at - http://www.womenspeakoutnow...com
Chris also took part in the recent Oprah Winfrey shows about males who were
sexually abused as children.





7] Lauren Leigh, mental health activist and founder of “On the
Borderline” [and fellow NH resident!!] is looking for your videos about
your experiences while living with Borderline Personality Disorder. Please
include all of your relevant links in the email – e.g. your You Tube
channel, Facebook or Myspace profile, your blog, etc and send to – contact@ontheborderline.org





To learn more, please visit Lauren’s sites at - http://ontheborderline.org/
and





http://www.youtube.com/..ontheborderline30





8] Sharon Wise is now holding first readings for people interested in
her hit play, "Meet me on the Moon". She’s looking for two
females and one male actor to be a part of this creative effort – so if
you are in the
Washington, DC area, please contact her at



Skype - 202-460-2753 or by
e-mail at - thehouseofsharon@msn.com



I have been fortunate to
experience
Sharon’s powerful dance renditions and her equally
impressive art creations, so I can’t wait to see this play.





9] Kate Swift’s book - “This Tangled Web” is one
woman’s journey from victim to survivor. It is the untangling of a web
created by the pain of childhood sexual abuse. The author brings you to the
center of the web through her poetry and art, allowing you to see the journey
through her eyes.





http://www.thistangledweb.co...uk/kate-swift-book.htm





10] Chipmunka Publishing’s catalog of mental health books gives a
voice to writers with mental illness around the world. They help to raise
awareness of mental health and the stigma surrounding mental health problems by
encouraging society to listen. They are offering 45 Free E books to
download from their website, learn more at - http://www...chipmunkapublishing.co.uk
Click on specials and then e books.





I would like to close by sharing this quote from Albert Einstein -
“Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of
value.” I truly believe that all of you who are mentioned in these
newsletters and those who graciously receive them exemplify this quote –
Thank you for what you do in helping others.





Please keep the Surviving Spirit in mind for your next event when you
need a talented and inspirational keynote or workshop presenter. Please visit
our Speakers’ Bureau for all of your needs - http://survivingspirit.com/..Speakers_Bureau.html





You can help the Surviving Spirit in its Mission to help
others with your Time, Treasure or Talent. To learn more please visit - http://survivingspirit.com/..donate.html





Take care, Mike





ps. Please share this with your friends
& if you have received this in error, please let me know.





Our
lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.



~Martin Luther King, Jr.






A
diagnosis is not a destiny.





www.survivingspirit.com
–
Healing the Heart Through the Creative Arts





Speakers’ Bureau - http://survivingspirit.com/..Speakers_Bureau.html





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- Hope, Healing, & Help for Trauma, Abuse, & Mental Health through
music, resources, & advocacy





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Mike Skinner





"BE the change you
want to see in the world." Mohandas Gandhi



Please don't forget to sign the Sean's Voice Petition to ensure that our guys who are enduring and suffering abuse issues can get access to emergency shelter, support, and services to overcome and become the survivors we all need to be. Please click this link: http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/a-new-perspective-the-unacknowledged-abuse-survivors/

Thank you for your continued support!

Lika & YVI