On this last day of April, I end this month with the question, what has anyone done to help the situation of helping survivors of childhood abuse? There are many forms. Some are worse than others. Too many children end up dying, either at the hands of their abusers, or by suicide because the system focuses too much on the perpetrators. Yes, it is true that it is the Criminal Justice System, and when we hear about physical abuse or gross neglect that leads to starvation, we get infuriated, with good cause.
It seems to me, though, that so many people want to be easy on those who sexually target children. Sorry to tell you, but, feeling sorry for the perpetrators and thinking that simple therapy will help, is only allowing the abuse to continue. Yes, I’ve done my homework. Don’t assume that because your knowledge is different than mine, that I haven’t studied the topic. I founded Youth Voice Initiative May 2008. I’d already done a lot of research back then, and haven’t stopped studying this topic. You can also visit the cause on Facebook.
I will tell you that #LikasLaw4Wisconsin is NOT about the high school sweethearts who run off together, when one is of age and the other is not. The Romeo & Juliet situation is not applicable, here. We are talking about fully grown adults who make a move on preschool age children, or the 19 year old who targets your 9 year old with special needs. Pedophiles are sexually attracted to prepubescent children, which is birth to about 11 or 12 year old kids. Hebephiles are full grown adults who prefer children at the cusp of moving into adolescence, the premature form of moving into adult shaped bodies. Just like you can’t force someone to become gay or straight, the same logic applies to pedophiles. Please check out the Lika’s Law Petition, and read the body of the petition as well as the accompanying letter. After reading through, then ask me what you wish.
There is no therapy on the face of the planet. I have spoken to a psychologist who had worked in the system, and he has explained that while the results can be found, it’s never a permanent state of coming out of being a pedophile. Pedophilia is a form of sex offender. There is grooming, not taking responsibility, and minimizing the severity of what actually happened. These are all forms of high level manipulation, and is attributed to very narcissistic people. The manipulator will figure out “the right answer”, and use these very same manipulating principle, to groom those who are not experienced into thinking they might not be dangerous. This same psychologist had said pretty much that these people will do anything to get out, and to minimize their sentence, just to get out to connive a way to go back to sexually preying on children. There is even an article by Psych Central that ends their recent report that there is no real conclusive evidence that this therapy even works. Any sex offender who targets children can SAY they’re not molesting children, if they’ve never been caught. Even this German Study doesn’t say that the therapy works, it says it COULD work. These are two different things, people. Another German Study, that took 7,000 pedophiles even states that pedophilia cannot be cured. So if it can’t be cured, how do we know that these people who are sexually attracted to children will actually keep from taking these children?
When children are traumatized, and granted, yes, there are different types of trauma, but, in this case, we will stick to abused children. The home is a combat zone, and your child was not born with boot camp experience. The repeated trauma of abuse actually affects brain development and how these kids learn. This is serious in child development, and how these kids meet the milestones necessary to compete in the workforce and beyond. Because they cannot “just fit in”, may be labeled as slow learners, it isn’t about being an adult. The brain actually changed so adulting isn’t something that just comes up as natural. If children can’t children, how do we expect to have functional adults? I am so happy for places like SAS of Lutheran Social Services to offer support, counseling, advocacy, and so much more. I volunteer for this crisis line, and the ladies and gent who are the staff and volunteers are an awesome group of people. I am also grateful for the Women’s Resource Center, which takes in those in dangerous & abusive relationships who need a safe place to stay. These are priceless agencies, both of which I am proud to be or have been associated with.
So, because the survivors of childhood sex abuse deserve more, I encourage you to take a stand and sign my petition. Not taking a sand is protecting the sex offenders who target our children, making it a community where children are made into sex toys for them.
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