Concert Settings:

Back in April, my 19-year-old son treated me to the Billy Joel concert up at Miller Park Stadium.  Yes, I corrupted him...  He loves classic rock.  Other concerts he has gone to include ZZ Top and The Who.  Definitely a boy after his mother's heart.  I am fortunate.

I wonder if it is because growing up myself, I'd always been a music head, and love classical music, jazz, etc.  I even play clarinet and tenor saxophone, sang in the jazz choir, and can't imagine my life w/o music.  My son also is a musician.  As a preschooler, he'd sneak my harmonica and play along to his favorite cartoon shows at the beginning.  He now plays trumpet and is learning how to play acoustic guitar.  Yes, I'm bragging just a little bit...

To make things more interesting, I'd been involved at a young age helping out with various campaigns to get people elected since I was about 9, and got him started around the same age, maybe slightly older.  We also love Science Fiction.  We try to see every sci-fi flick that comes out on the big screen together, even if it's on $5/Tuesdays or at the Value Cinema.  It's pretty fun.  Everything from Star Trek to X-Men to whatever else that comes out...  Plus we love action, thrillers, and so much more.  I hope we can continue to do things together as he goes on, though I realize it will be a lot less often.

So, when I found out that my friend, Soldwolf is writing a military sci-fi story filled with action, humor and even a little romance story called Meeting the Parents, I was interested.  Because I like the story so much, I decided that I just have to share it, because it's too good not to share.  It's a neat storyline featuring a hero from post-unification Earth, where he is serving in the UN military, and his love is from a prominent family on a planet called Tamal, a humanoid race that evolved from herbivores.  This Tamalnii heroine is such an endearing character, you'll be cheering on for her and her people as well as for her and her studly to make it through to the end.

Chapter 41:  Post Takedowns - With so much going on, people need to chill out to make out sensible reports...  Oh, the info collected is huge.  I'm just wondering what kind of smackdown is awaiting in the future...

Happy reading!  I hope you enjoy it as much as I am.

Trigger warning and it might make you ~sick~

Let me educate some Online peeps. This is also the reason why we need something along the line if #LikasLaw4Wisconsin. Please read all the way through.

There is the web, you get on google or your search engine of choice and look up your topic. There is a whole other web embedded underneath called the dark web. You have to know how to get into it, no I will not tell you how. What you find there is utter depravity at its worse. Today I will stick with the children.  

You will find forums where the freaks go to chat, buy and sell pics of kids, regular pics like the ones they take off your Facebook. THEN there are nude pics, pics of sexual acts between adults/children. Child/child. Animals/Child. Wanna hurl yet? I'm not done. Websites where you can go, whip out that credit card and really get your freak on. You will watch it unfold in real time with real children. Request the gender, request what you want to see done.

Better take a deep breath here... Rape. Torture. Sodomy. Murder. Children for sale. *FOR SALE* a pedophile's dream, in a smorgasbord. I'm not making this up, google it and if you are offended delete me. I AM a child advocate in several ways not just one. Some people on this social network need to get their heads out of their asses and understand some cold hard facts about what goes on with kids and the net. This IS the evil I confront and I will not stop till I'm dead. I fight for the kids in court and online. THIS is EVIL at its worst!

Then people wonder why I caution about things, and turn their noses up, until it's one of theirs that ends up in a film. Sign this petition today, and pass it around. Speak up, or you're supporting these monsters.

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/367/880/690/likas-law-4-wisconsin-demand-stiffer-sentencing-4-child-sex-offenders/

Important Info About Childhood Sex Abuse:

April 25th is Alice Day, which was originally Pedophile Pride Day, is a day where some pedophiles make it a holiday to celebrate pedophilia.  I'm not sure how many of them actually partake in this celebration, but, there is enough of a group that do.  The fact that these people want to make it a festive event is totally disgusting.

The fact that there is a loud group of pedophiles who want to make pedophilia legal, and make it legitimate as a sexual orientation is disgusting.  To make it legitimate is to quietly condone the act of sexually assaulting our children.  Here are some of the symbols they use.

Don't let anyone fool you into thinking that these are just pretty bling for innocent reasons like they like it...  These are pedophile symbols.  If you see these, report them to authorities.  Here is an intel report from the FBI.  These symbols are kind of like the pedophile handshake, which is widespread, regardless of if they celebrate Alice Day or not.  Most of them practice in their own ways, on their own terms.  There are some toys geared toward various ages of children and youth, where the pedophile symbols are on the toys, so if the kids are out and about, those particular children can be publicly targeted as a sign for the various ages that they are attracted to.

Here are some of their terminology and abbreviations, so you can stay on top of it, in case you hear anything.

Do not think that all pedophiles are these weird strangers who jump out of a bush.  Many are smart, and are highly smart in the manipulation game, and will find a way to get trust, gain access to your children, and groom everyone so you don't see the signs of abuse.   The kids will be told that if they tell, they will kill their family.  Most of these offenders are known to the victim.

How do you protect your children?  Know them, and know what is normal and not normal.  Keep open communication.  A strong bond between parent and child is one of the best ways to keep them safe.  These pedophiles and child molesters are looking for those who are loners, insecure, and maybe don't have a solid home life.  

What is the difference between pedophiles and child molesters?  The answer is this:

Pedophiles are sexually attracted to children, the same way that adults are to each other.  A 16 year old who prefers 6 year olds to peers are considered a pedophile, while with full adults, it's more about the age spread.  Technically, a pedophile is one who prefers children that are under 12, prepubescent.  Those who are interested in tweens (12-15 years old) are called hebephiles, and those interested in YOUNG almost adults are called  ephebophiles (15-19).  But, mind you, we tend to call 50 year olds who are attracted to 15 year olds as a pedophile, because of the age differences.  We are not talking about peers who run away with each other.  These are adults who somehow feel connected with these children, to the point that they can't hold an adult relationship the way normal people do.

Child molesters usually come across as normal people in society.  They are probably married, have their own families, might be active in some kind of faith based or civic organization, yet, they choose to sexually assault children.  Those who are developmentally or physically disabled are often targeted.  The scary statistic is, by the time kids are 18, 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be sexually assaulted.  For those who end up in college, the numbers are 1 in 3 girls and 1 in 5 boys.  Disabled children are 3 times more likely to be targeted for sexual abuse.

Another scary fact is that most of these people who rape our children do not spend much time in prison, if at all.  So, in honor of our children who are being sexually abused and those who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse, let's get #LikasLaw4Wisconsin trending.

Here is the petition to sign:  Lika's Law 4 Wisconsin 
Or, the link:  http://www.thepetitionsite.com/367/880/690/likas-law-4-wisconsin-demand-stiffer-sentencing-4-child-sex-offenders/
 

April is Child Abuse Prevention Month 2

I cannot say enough, that as adults, we MUST speak up for our children. It’s crazy how many people want to sit back and do nothing. Doing nothing makes you a supporter of those who abuse their children. I’m also wondering why some people have a problem signing this petition, since ignoring the issue will also, not solve anything but to allow child predators to keep raping our children. So, you don’t want to sign because you don’t want to feel like a hypocrite? You running off with your 20 year old boyfriend/girlfriend when you were 17 is not the same thing, as a 30 year old targeting your 5 year old. The main difference is, when you were 17, you chose to run off. A 5 year old does not have this choice. Get it? So, if you’re saying that because you fell into the “Romeo & Juliet” scenario makes it so that you don’t want to sign, you’re stating that you don’t have a problem with your 40 year old uncle (or aunt) can take your 12 year old child into the bedroom for sexual purposes.

I’m also hearing from people that they “don’t agree with the stiffer sentencing” because some other country “does therapy & counseling” to reduce the rate of recidivism. I have never seen that study. At all. But, sorry. You. Can. Not. Cure. Classic. Pedophilia. Pedophiles are not mentally their own age, nor do they think there is anything wrong with full grown adults having sex with young children. They just know that society doesn’t agree with it. But, not all sex offenders who prey on children are pedophiles. Child molesters target children because they rationalize the abuse somehow. And no; it is untrue that most are those who were sexually abused as children. The fact is, only 29% of those who have been sexually abused as children go on to become child molesters or pedophiles. Because many take advantage of opportunities coming to them, it isn’t something that “just happens”.  

Here is another FYI: All sexual violence is GROSSLY under-reported, so, the likelihood of a false report is extremely rare, especially if the victim is a child. With the widespread issue child sex abuse being so prominent, it makes it even MORE important to take a stand. The best way to prevent your children from being sexually assaulted or abused is to know your children and have a strong bond with them, which includes open communication. Child predators will target children with low self esteem, and understands that many are not close to their parents, which makes an easier target a child. Know your child. Understand your child. Have mutual respect between you and your child. When you know your child, the behavior changes are more obvious, and when they divulge, believe them. This will help your child move past the victimization. Never blame your children for the abuse, because frankly, no. They did NOT ask for it. Get to know the facts. Too many of these statistics are very frightening, and with the widespread problem, you probably know at least a few survivors of sex assaults. Just to give you an idea of how wide spread it is, think of 4 women you love, respect, and are close to. 

Now, think of 6 men that you love, respect, and are close to. Depending on their ages, there is one on each list that has been sexually abused, or are at risk of it. There are various forms of child sex abuse, and child pornography is one of them. Do not minimize it by saying that the viewer is not abusing those children, because they are revictimizing those children every time the child porn is viewed. It is this very demand that keeps the makers of these images coming, and with each new wave of people, they will keep needing “new material” which is why human trafficking is such a big buck industry in and of itself.

The sad thing is, I’ve heard through the grapevines through various networks, that parishioners of the faith facility I used to attend, were told not to help me out in my cause, because whomever told them insisted that I am only seeking attention, and because of who told them, they felt that they didn’t have a choice but to follow orders. I wonder if whomever said anything has something to hide. Are they protecting pedophiles? Have they sexually assaulted minors? Why would anyone want to exert that kind of power against protecting children from sex abuse? I don’t know. That just means that I need your support more than ever.

Please, I ask you, to help me get #LikasLaw4Wisconsin trending, anywhere and everywhere online. You don’t need to live in Wisconsin to help make this push. We only need to get as many people in Wisconsin to sign this petition as possible, and let’s make it go viral. Please sign and share widely, this petition to ensure that those who sexually assault children do not get to walk.

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Youth Voice Initiative: Petition Drive & Education Material Study

Youth Voice Initiative (YVI) is a registered 501c4 to make the social changes necessary to stiffen up on those who abuse our children.  There is always a need for more involvement, in various ways, both "behind the scenes" as well as to put forth the effort to get more awareness that we are here for the purposes of protecting our children.  For more information, please visit our website:  https://sites.google.com/site/youthvoiceinitiative/home

Currently, we have a few things going.  Here are the minutes of our last meeting.

Youth Voice Initiative March 18, 2017 Minutes

Call to Order:  3:03pm

Present:  Courtney, Jonathan, Shawn, Mike, Lika

Old Business:

1)      Background story and petition wording voted:  Unanimously passed

2)      Study on Trauma Informed Care & childhood trauma affecting brain development:

A)    Courtney brought important articles regarding Trauma Informed Care, and how it is already implemented other places, and how trauma could come from anywhere, such as divorce, loss of employment, becoming homelessness, etc.  She will be looking up information on who gave the training on this for prison & parole staff.

B)    Shawn will be looking into the research done by the Blue Knot Foundation, whose mission is to empower people who suffered from childhood trauma.  They have research going back 150 years.

C)    Jonathan will be looking into the Help Guide Organization which offers self-help guides put together from professionals for survivors of childhood trauma and abuse, as well as to offer help to those who support survivors of trauma.

D)    Mike will be looking into Healing Resources Info & the Dana Foundation about how childhood trauma & abuse is directly tied to the actual physical brain development as well as how it affects how information is processed.

E)     Lika will be looking into Healthland, a branch of Time Magazine and NCBI/NIH on how survivors of childhood trauma can be more prone to various mental health disorders.  It would be good if survivors of abuse had services paid for.

F)     Barb (not present) will be offering her editing services for when we are ready to have an educational guide put together to teaching materials for the people working in the process leading up to incarceration as well as school counselors, and other personnel who deal with counseling survivors of violence.

New Business:

1)      How to pursue more awareness to get higher involvement and/or future fundraisers has been tabled until future notice.

2)      No other new business.

Discussion:

1)      Next meeting will be on the 4^th Saturday, April 22, 2017 @ 3pm, due to the 3^rd Saturday being Easter weekend.

2)      Those wanting the informational articles regarding the Trauma Informed Care and how it is implemented should message Lika, to be able to get a copy sent.

3)      For those who have experience with studying issues and making input into making educational information, please speak up to help out, having 2 or more people per topic would be helpful, to get a fuller perspective to go into the education packet.  Your name will be listed as an author for this information.

Adjournment:  3:53pm

 
Here is the information about Trauma Informed Care and how childhood trauma affects brain development, and we need people to help study each of these sections to be able to come together to make an education packet to give to Law Enforcement, Court System, School Nurse/Counselor's office, and other segments in social services to teach them about the effects of childhood abuse and how the brain does not develop the way it normally should.  This is important to address, since there are certain checkpoints that may not be attained to bring into the real world as an adult, to be successful in relationships, higher education, and careers for the rest of their lives.  Here is the info, and please help us round out each section, so we have at least 2 people studying each topic, to have the most well rounded education package to bring to the floor.

1)      According to Blue Knot Foundation, whose mission is to empower people who suffered from childhood trauma, the research documents 150 years’ worth of studies regarding this topic.  There are many psychological and psychiatric issues that may come up, due to enduring child abuse through the young, formative years.

http://www.blueknot.org.au/Resources/General-Information/Abuse-related-conditions

2)      Healthland, a branch of Time magazine, talks about how child abuse sets up the brain to be more susceptible to future mental illnesses and disorders.

http://healthland.time.com/2012/02/15/how-child-abuse-primes-the-brain-for-future-mental-illness/

3)      Healing Resources Info has at least a couple of articles out about how early childhood trauma can affect developmental issues, such as the fact that children’s brains have plasticity that is still flexible, where it loses it as time goes on. This will affect how stress is handled, because the normal attachment and emotional bond that happens from infant with primary care taker is not present.  Those who grew up with abuse in their homes are at greater risk of entering other traumatic situations as adults.

http://www.healingresources.info/trauma_attachment_stress_disorders.htm

4)      The Dana Foundation, which is an organization that is dedicated to bringing, “your gateway to responsible information about the brain” talks about the neurological effects of childhood trauma and abuse, which affects people a whole lifetime.

http://www.dana.org/Cerebrum/2000/Wounds_That_Time_Won%E2%80%99t_Heal__The_Neurobiology_of_Child_Abuse/

5)      The National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI), a branch of the National Health Institute (NIH), talks about the broad range of abuse, neglect, lack of income, etc. takes a toll on the psyche, and does indeed make a correlation with future health issues, from immunological to pain, to poverty issues.  This shows that even the federal public health sector understands the issues with these disorders.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3153850/

6)      Here is a link from Help Guide Organization, which is a self-help guide for those who are survivors of childhood trauma and abuse.  This may be helpful for those who support those who have lived through this type of abuse.  Our entire legal system needs to keep this in mind, when creating, enforcing, practicing, and interpreting our laws.

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/ptsd-trauma/emotional-and-psychological-trauma.htm

Trauma Informed Care – A packet for therapists, counselors, & general public:

Studies show that childhood trauma leads to brain anomalies, where proper development is hindered, altered, etc.  and how therapists and group leaders can assess if a person has had abuse issues.  It is used in prisons, to determine the root of prisoner behaviors.

Trauma informed care is grounded in and directed by a thorough understanding of the neurological, biological, psychological, and social effects of trauma and the prevalence of these experiences in persons who seek and receive mental health services.

Here is an article from a psychologist about how trauma affects behavior, trust issues, and how human relationships are also negatively affected into adulthood, so, the thing of being told, “You’re an adult, now”, is of absolutely no use, what so ever.  It can take years to overcome a single trauma, depending on how bad the PTSD sets in.

We need to assign people to a group, to look more into this, to come up with an education packet to give to the legal system before incarceration, as we can learn from the Menendez brothers who killed their father for beating their mother, and threatening to kill her.  They were tried as cold hearted killers, when it was trauma from domestic violence.  Since the prison system already is putting this into place, and the lawyers, especially DA’s and Public Defenders, judges, and civilian therapy places that need to learn this process.  

If anyone knows any teachers who can help develop this, it would be great, but, we can put this together by brainstorming, but, everyone needs to be willing to do their part to learn about how this relates and how it will affect people.  This needs attention.

 
This is a lot to take in, but, it is important.  Now, here is a push we can all do.  This is a petition to stiffen up on those who sexually prey on our children, and all too often, the sentencing is way too easy, and the children get returned to the very environment they were abused in, with the perpetrator still able to get easy access to the children, to keep the sex abuse going.  If they do not go into an in-house treatment program immediately, the consequences can be devastating to more and more children.

I need as many people IN WISCONSIN as possible to print one copy of this petition, and get it signed.  When finished, please mail it back to me through snail mail.  I will reimburse you for postage, if you need it.  Please copy this into a word document, and print this, below.  It will be a 2 page document, the 1st with the background story, and the 2nd being the actual petition.  We are in dire need of Wisconsin residents to sign this.

Background issues to support stiffer punishments on those who sexually perpetrate our children:

As advocates who make hospital visits for those who go in for E.R. for sexual assaults, we see that way too often, the male perpetrators of female children are let out way too easily by the judicial system.  Those who perpetrate our children need to be kept away from not only their victims, but other children as well, to prevent future child victims by the same perpetrator, especially if the offender is a classic pedophile (no gender preference).

Case #1: 

A man was charged with a sexual assault on a child back in 2005.

In 2013, he sexually assaulted his 4 year old son.  He served 1.5 years.

He then went to live with a friend in 2015, and subsequently, sexually assaulted his friend’s 5 and 6 year old children. 

These children were threatened, forced to use sex toys on themselves and each other, then forced perform sex acts with him and with each other. 

He was set to serve a life sentence, and only served 2 years.

His most recent victim is a 16 year old girl, who he strangled her during the rape, and is looking at 9 counts of felony charges. 

Although he was ordered to stay away from all minor children, since he took both male and female victims, he violated this grossly.

This is not the only case, it’s just one of many examples of those who perpetrate female children, already do not get stiff enough sentencing, as described above.

Case #2:

We, again as advocates, understands that sexual abuse by a teacher or other person of power is damaging, and is just as if not more damaging to teenage boys.

Because of the the maturity and understanding of this type of relationship has negative consequences on our young boys, since it is assumed that all boys want and enjoy sex from teachers or other leaders of groups they participate in. 

There are also few supports in place for the male children to get support, therapy, and long term help to get through the situation.

As if the sentencing on those who perpetrate female children isn’t strong enough, there are even fewer sentencing among female sex offenders who target our children.

This is why we demand that upon the first arrest for sexual assaults on children must go through a 2-3 year in house therapy action for sex offenders to be let out into the public, upon being deemed low risk (not safe) by those in charge of the programs.  If they do not complete this program in house, there is a great likelihood that they will not do it on their own, just to assault more child victims, which is why it needs to be in-house.  If they refuse, the clock keeps getting reset until the offender cooperates and starts the anti-abuse therapy sessions and finish the program successfully before they get out.  They must also be mandated to stay away from minor children, and if a parent, have placement/custodial rights removed, permanently.  If visitation is allowed, by case by case situation, the visitation must be supervised by a trusted adult who will protect the children and not let the offender out of their site while the children are present.

We, the undersigned citizens and residents of the State of Wisconsin, urge your support of Lika’s Law, to put in stiffer penalties in place for all sex offenders, both male and female, who perpetrate our children.  The psychological and emotional damage to their child victims are too great to keep allowing these perpetrators off with little to no consequence.  As our elected officials, we urge you to support these measures:

A)    A 2 – 3 year in-house therapy program to instill in them the reasoning to why their actions are/were wrong.

B)    For refusal to go through the program, the sentence will not be counted until they go into the program.

C)    Strong mandates keeping the released perpetrators away from children, to prevent further victimization from happening.

D)    If they are a parent, lose placement/custody with only supervised visitations, to prevent repeated offenses on their children.

Print name                                           Sign Name                                          City, State

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As a measure to get signatures for those who may want to support this issue, but don't want their name to be public, please encourage them to sign the e-petition, where the option is there to keep their names anonymous, so their signatures will pop up as "Anonymous, WI" - Not even I can view their names, if they choose the anonymous option.  Here is the link, and please, I encourage everyone to search to get at least 5 Wisconsin resident signatures for the e-petition.  Here is the link:

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/takeaction/367/880/690/

Thank you in advance, for your help.  Every little effort counts.  Please feel free to email me with any questions.  Please put YVI or Lika's Law 4 Wisconsin in the subject line, to make it pop up.

Let's make this trend:  #LikasLaw4Wisconsin